I’ve always been a huge fan of the TV show “Friends”. I know that it’s not technically the most wholesome, or intelectually stimulating show, but I just love it.
In one particular episode, the One With the Metaphorical Tunnel, Joey is giving Chandler relationship advice. (I actually cringed a little bit as I typed that last sentence.)
Chandler is scared to take a step of intimacy with a girl. He’s afraid of the metephorical tunnel of commitment and what might be on the other side. Commitment, emotional intimacy, love. Joey’s advice is to, “Face your fear.”
“Go for it man! Jump off the high dive! Stare down the barrel of the gun… Pee into the wind!” Chandler’s response is priceless.
“Ya Joe, I assure you, if I’m staring down the barrel of a gun I’m gonna be pretty much peeing every which way.”
It’s a goofy scene from a show with very little redemptive value but I think there is some truth to Joey’s advice. Often times the single thing that keeps us from achieving our goals… is fear.
Maybe it’s fear of rejection or failure. Maybe it’s fear of change or fear that we wont get the support we need or make enough money pursuing our passion, but it’s fear. Plain and simple.
I want to challenge you to look at your goals for the year and identify what fears might be holding you back. Maybe your afraid that you wont actually make it to the gym 3 times a week. Maybe your afraid that you will fail, or that people wont like what you are working so hard to achieve. Maybe you are afraid of success and how that will change the status quo.
Maybe you’re just plain old afraid of change. Whatever it is, the first step is to identify the fear.
What’s the seccond step you ask?
PEE INTO THE WIND!!!!
So take the leap! Dive In! Stare down the barrel of the Gun! and Pee into the wind!
Face your fear and punch it right in the nose. Too often fear sneaks into our lives and wrecks our dreams before we even notice that it’s there. Don’t let that happen to you.
Identify your fear and then plot it’s demise. Plan out how you will systematically conquer whatever fear happens to get between you and your goals.
I’d love to hear any success stories of fears that have been faced. If you’ve got one that needs to be faced but you don’t know how. Comment below or PM me. I’d love to help.